Dhucks' Tips & Tricks
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2009
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Stage Two:
Let Go
Last month I asked you to
pick a project you wanted to play with. Did the questions help you
clarify what you wanted from the project? Did they help you see what
you could accomplish and the direction to start? Keep those answers in
mind as you go and change them as you need.
The next stage in your project is to begin to let go of what
doesn't work for you, what you no longer use or need, and especially
what you no longer love. Letting go is not just getting rid of
things, it's about creating the space and the time and the energy for
what you do want.
For those of you who have no problems with letting go of things,
excellent! Go ahead and schedule some time today, this week or next,
and create that space you need.
For the rest, here are some ideas to use when you want to clear away
the clutter in your life.
Ask yourself questions.
- General
questions for most anything:
- Am
I using this now?
- When
was the last time I used it?
- Do I
love it?
- If I'm
not using it, what would be the worst-case scenario if I let it
go and found out in 6 months I could have used it?
- If
I'm not using it but I want to keep it, do I have space to store it,
access it AND put it back easily?
- If I
store it, how will I remember I have it and where I put it?
- Questions
for reading
material (keep in mind that information becomes old news, so you
can let go of newspapers that are older than 3 days, weekly
publications that are older than 3 weeks and monthly publications that
are older than 3 months):
- When
will I read this?
- No,
seriously, when will I read this?
- Have I
set aside the time to read this?
- What's
the worst that could happen if I don't read it?
Think
small bites.
I am a big
believer in a little bit
is better than nothing, so if you aren't quite ready to let go of all
of your magazines, your hobby supplies, your shoes or collectibles, how
about
letting go
of half now? Or letting go of the 5 least favorite. A bite at a time.
Move the items out of the
house immediately.
Have
you ever dug
through
the give-away bag and reclaimed an item? Did you really use it? The
best way to prevent reclaiming items is to get the bag or box to its
final destination as quickly as possible. When you've filled the
bag with the items to give away, move it to your car. Plan on
dropping it
off the next day
or as soon as possible. If someone is going to pick up the item, let
them know that you need them to pick it up by a certain day or it will
go
to charity. This isn't being mean or demanding. It helps ensure that
your hard work and effort in letting go doesn't go to waste.
Let go of thoughts and
beliefs that aren't supporting you.
Do you...
- Hold onto things
that you don't use because you paid good money for it?
- Feel you should
keep it until you find just the right person that will appreciate
it?
- Keep it until
the kids are older because they may want it someday?
- Are the kids older, but
you're still holding on to it for them?
- Feel that you have
to finish every project you started, even if it's been a couple of
years since you last worked on it?
- Keep it only because
it was given to you by someone special?
Sometimes our
thoughts and beliefs may get in the way of letting go of things. Ask yourself if that belief
is working for you? What's the worst thing that could happen if
you changed that thought?
Whether you let go of a few items now
or a lot, pat yourself on the back for making the effort to create
space for what you want in your life. And don't forget to have some
fun doing
it!
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You don't need strength to let go of something.
What you really need is understanding.
~Guy Finley
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Shawndra Holmberg Coach & Organizer
(808) 969-3800 dhucks@dhucks.com
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